Tuesday, December 31, 2013

The End.... The Beginning

The end of one year! The beginning of another!  As I look back on my what has happened in my life in the past twelve months I remember good times, where everything is right in the world! and I have gone forward with faith, strength and determination.  I also remember the not so good moments where nothing is right in the world and it takes all I have to place one foot in front of the other! 
I have had many amazing growing experiences this year and I am truly blessed and forever grateful to God for giving them to me!  He is so great and so patient as I learn and grow and become the woman He wants me to be.  I know that those low points this year were for my benefit and for my growth.

 I have had my eyes and heart open this year, to things that I need to be doing in my life and in my home. Some of them will be easy. And some will require a little work and some will require a lot of work and even some sacrifice on my selfish part! I can do it though!  (little bit of positivity to keep me going!) ;)

I have always had "New Years Resolutions"  because I always wanted to set a goal and accomplish it!   Well I never have been able to keep them so I don't really want to set one(again!) if I am not going to do it... so here's the dilemma....   I need to starting doing and changing some things...tomorrow is a new day, a new month, a New YEAR!!  what better time to start?!   

I guess I could say its just not a "New years resolution"  its a lifetime resolution!

It just so happens that that this change I am desiring to make is falling now- at the end of the year and I have the opportunity to start it with a new year!  these are changes that I could have and should have made earlier in my life! (yes even as long ago as 15 year!)  but I didn't know and have the knowledge that I do now. I feel like its one of those "to everything there is a season, and I time to every purpose under the heaven" types of things.  A friend of mine told me that it wasn't my time 10-15 years ago to be going through this and making these changes. This is my time and season to be learning and going through the experiences I have.  Its my time to learn and grow through those experiences and have my mind and heart open to being able to understand and change now!....I got off on a side note :)  back to what I was saying:  It happens that I am choosing now to begin these things... I am all for New beginnings and a new year, and a clean slate and all those sayings and metaphors....  BUT.....To me this is different!  this isn't just some "thing" I want to do this year.  It's not some goal or dream that I want to accomplish!  This is a Whole Life kind of a deal!  These are things that I want to become a daily habit!..forever!  no matter what! its not the kinds of things that are like everybody does!  "eat better"  "exercise" "read a book" etc!  I am not knocking those! and I am not knocking those who do that! I am just saying that's not what kind of a goal this is!!

 You wish I was going to tell you what it is I am doing don't you!?!  Well I am not going to be writing that today!  maybe someday but not now!  If you want to make this kind of change in your life.... you can!  open your heart, open your mind, and go find out!!

I pray this year brings the blessings and desires of your hearts! always keep believing in your dreams and goals! always keep faith and hope strong!!  Always keep moving forward! even if its a down day and it takes everything!  DO IT ANYWAY!! :)    (yes that's my 'lil pep talk!)

So in ending...
Happy Beginnings!! 

Thursday, October 31, 2013

positive and negative

YES its true!  you are killing yourself! 
I'm sure that's news to you! it sure was to me when I found out, so I decided to read study and learn so that I could give life to my body!...not only body but mind and spirit!
So here's the big disclaimer:  I am not a dr, a health care provider, or anyone that is qualified to give you any answers or prescribe anything to you.  this is all just my own findings and research and experiments! (keyword, I have "experimented" and found what works best for me)  don't blame me for anything ok?  :)  
SO here we go....and prepare yourself for a long read!

Ok so where to start? 

Energy:  what is energy? I have found many definitions. 
       ~Internal or inherent power,  the power of operating whether exerted or not
       ~Power exerted, vigorous operation, force, vigor
       ~effectual operation, strength or force producing the effect
       ~strength of expression, force of utterance, life, spirit, emphasis
       ~the strength and vitality required for sustaining physical or mental activity
so there are a few of the definitions.   everything has an energy!!!  I mean everything!!!!!!   There's something else you should know about me...I am NOT a scientist!  so I cant really tell you about all the energy that's in everything :)  but what I want to focus on is this:  Energy is POWER...don't believe me? read the definitions again up there! ^
 What is power? power in a philosophical sense is the faculty of doing or performing anything.  The faculty of moving or producing a change in something.  Its also an ability or strength. 
so with that being said...is there negative power? is there positive power?  is there negative energy? is there positive energy?  If you're human please don't tell me if you answered no to any of those questions ;)
So here's a question that you may answer no to:  can you feel negative energy?   Can you feel positive energy?
some people are more sensitive to feeling it.  some also have different reactions to it. 

so...  positive energy is what?  moving, doing, performing, power, life, spirit.. in an upward. positive direction!     so when you have a negative moving, doing, thoughts and actions... is it beneficial?  what happens when you are going in a negative direction with your thoughts, power, moving and doing?
 OK Here's a thought!  think of a time when you were in a good mood!  everything seemed right in the world!  then something changed.  what made it change?  a negative energy did it!  most likely a negative thought of your own or the negative energy of someone you were in the presence of! 
don't tell me you have never been around someone who has leaked their negative energy to you! 

the energy you carry will attract the same energy from others!  If you are in a negative energy kind of day, chances are you will probably attract other people (also things and events!) that are negative!  flip it around and you will attract positive people things and events if you carry a positive energy!!  Some people who are really good at it can block the negative from others and share their positive and help others to heal and turn around their energy!

positive energy in our bodies makes is feel happy, energized, full of life, inspired, motivated and healthy. negative energy will make us feel tired, unhappy, sad, depressed, and angry.  Extreme volumes of negative energy will create sickness!  I don't remember where (I'm sure you can find it somewhere) but someone said that all our physical sickness and problems come from our negative thoughts and emotions! (I'm a big believer in that).

I am just going to insert a personal pet peeve of mine here!  I have very little patience for people who are always saying how sick they are and how hurt they are and how nothing is helping them and how life would be better if...   Seriously?!  quit complaining about it!  draw some positive energy to yourself. don't share your negative crap with us!  you are that sick because you brought it upon yourself with all your pity parties! ;)       *end of rant*  ps I still love you... just don't have the patience ;)

positive energy stems from all things that impact the mind body and soul in a nurturing manner, creating a healthy way of thinking feeling and living.  love and happiness help create positive energy which we need to build our positive energy.  in order to build our positive energy we must be aware of how draining the negative energy is!!  this is a video about the negative things we say... its pretty long (8min) but its worth the watch... lots of the little things that we thing wouldn't matter if we said it...it does! and it drains!!   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ev37bFxAIX0

you have seen or heard of the science experiment with the rice right?  you put cooked rice in two separate jars and talk nicely and positively to one and to the other you say negative and mean things to.  then watch what happens!  this is also a cool video to show the effects of positive and negative energy on water.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mCHWoshp_uA 

so like it says at the end of the video our bodies are mostly water!
I would advise you to pay close attention to what you're thinking and saying, to yourselves and others! even little things  you think wouldn't matter... they do!  (yep I said it again!)

here are a few ways of building our energy
 ~~  meditation:  no it doesn't mean this: 
 
however if I had a beach close by.. I think I might make it this! 
meditating can mean many things! heres a few ideas: take a walk, deep breath, pray, a favorite hobby,  just taking a break from a busy day a could be your type of meditation. its up to you!
~~ food... yep that's right! food has the ability to change our feelings! the food that gives us the largest increase of in feelings are the ones that greatly lower our inner strength!  the high acidic, high refined sugars and processed foods!  Fruits and vegetables increase our inner strength and inner energy as they contain the stored energy of the sun!  the alkaline foods, when consumed turns into a crystalline structure in the body, improving the whole system!    I can attest to this one!  I haven't eaten refined sugars in almost 6 months...  totally life changing!!  (and for you women readers :)  I haven't had pms symptoms!) 
  ~~nature:  nature can build energy from being in places like mountains, waterfalls, forests, oceans, rivers, streams, stones, fields etc etc!!  "Study movements and sounds.  Study with a child mind of wonder and admiration"  (don't know who said it).  I can tell you this one works too!!  like a charm!!  go take a walk!
 



So on some similar note:  have you heard of grounding or earthing?  I wont go into it but here are a couple of articles worth reading! 

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2012/11/04/why-does-walking-barefoot-on-the-earth-make-you-feel-better.aspx

  http://magazine.foxnews.com/earthing-go-barefoot-better-health

To Be Continued........  I have more not tonight! 

Sneak peak:
 chakras and positive affirmations
 

Friday, October 4, 2013

Insomnia, emotions, music

I better not get too carried away with this blogpost... Because I have stuff in my head that goes way deeper as far as music and emotions go.... Not necessarily together.. But totally does and can go together! 
Ok so it's not like it's that late... But sometimes I feel insomnia-ish when I lay down to go to bed and I need to "get away" and just not think about what's really going on in my head. So I get a book, my laptop, my iPhone... And I turn on pandora or YouTube... And I forget about life, emotions, or the fact that sleeping is healthy. 
Tonight it happens to be pandora-easy listening! And my iPhone. I'm forgetting the fact that tears are pushing their way out... Do I have a reason to be emotional? Is being a woman reason enough?  I don't really have a specific reason no... It could be that I have been sick, it could be because its been a long day! It could be because... Because....because... It could be lots of things! 
 It could be because my violin string broke! One of my happy places, or emotional outlets is music! There is something bred into my soul that makes me connect SO deeply with music!! I am not a concert violinist or pianist nor am I a vocal performer. I used to want to be all those things! But life brought me a different direction. Plus I am still shy about things like that...."what you want me to sing like no ones watching"?  I am an amazing singer... In the shower! 
Ok so my point with this... I hope I can word it right! I have an emotional connection with music... Maybe because I have had difficulties in expressing myself  it's easy for me to think the song does it. Ok so for an example: the song "the way you look tonight"... When I was younger my mom was making dinner and my dad was playing with a new CD player we'd just bought. He put in a cd and a little while later that song came on and be started dancing with my mom! It was so cute! I remember thinking that I wanted a relationship like that! And that's also the song I wanted my dad to sing at my wedding because of that moment.  So that song will always bring me back to that moment. Oh maybe that's what it is!! It brings me to a moment in time that is special so that's why the Song is special! That's one reason I'm sure. But sometimes it's not a memory but more of a feeling or a specific person.  
It's not only that... You know?! After all this maybe this maybe that the best way I can put the bottom line is a deep connection and/or passion between my heart and music! 
So as I end this post.. The song playing is Let it be - the Beatles. I think that's the answer to my unknown emotions... That I am not facing right now.   Deborah, face it and just let it be! :) 
Thanks for listening/reading through my insomnia-ish rant!  

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Since You've Been Gone

Dear Dad,

Since you've been gone, I have wished I could talk to you and have you here with me.  I know that I can talk to you and you can be with me and hear me, but sometimes I wish I could feel your arms around me, and have you just hold me when nothing else will do!

Since you've been gone, I have had times where all I do is think back on all the memories I have of you.  I have so many wonderful, funny, awesome, educational, and great memories and things I don't ever want to forget!

Since you've been gone, I have longed to hear your voice, singing, laughing, talking, whether its words of encouragement, comfort, or even those guided words of discipline that I so desperately needed.

Since you've been gone, I have sometimes wanted to be that little girl in your arms again, and never have to grow up. I have had many moments where I have ached to hear those emotion filled words you spoke to me on the day of my High School Graduation "Does this mean I have to let you grow up now"?    There are times I want to replay that moment in your arms again and again!  College graduation, my wedding day, the day I got my house!   No daddy, you don't have to let me grow up!

Since you've been gone, I have wanted time and time again to ask your opinion on something, to have you help me with a problem.  I have wanted to call you up and see if you needed anything at walmart! ;)

Since you've been gone, I have noticed that I wasn't the best daughter!  I look back and I cant change anything but I know with all my heart that you loved me and were patient with me through my times of "bratty daughter"!

Since you've been gone, I want you to know I have felt you with me and I have been so blessed with those experiences even just to know you care, and to know that you know that's all that I need!

Since you've been gone, I want you to know that I wont ever stop replaying my life with you in my mind, I will ALWAYS remember, my very very first memory of you, not long after I was born(even of some protest that I can remember that young, I KNOW its fact!)  I will ALWAYS remember every good thing you taught me, and every testimony that I gained from hearing yours, and every teaching moment you embraced, and every "date" we had!

Since you've been gone, I want you to know that I have an amazing husband!  I have longed SO many times to just tell you how much I love him and how you would be SO proud of him!!  He treats me like you would want and expect him to!  But Dad, I'm still your little girl!!

One last thing, I miss you!
And dad,  I love you! 

Love, Deborah

p.s. Tell Teresa, and Grandma(s) that I miss them too! and  since its not yet time for my kids to be with me, please tell them I love them!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uloaEY81hOQ

wouldn't a telephone in heaven be AMAZING! ;)

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Diligence and Determination

Well, I'd say its high time for a new blog post.  I have had thoughts and ideas about what to write about but I haven't ever actually sat down to write.  some of them need some more thinking time anyway.  so today since I was up bright and early (6:30, and if you know me that's not normal) I figured I would sit and write because I am all packed and ready to go and now just waiting to leave.  In the life of a farmers wife there is a lot of waiting.  today its because is hay season and the farmer is out baling hay :)  

I have never been one to put myself on a schedule unless I had to.  like when I was working, or when I was in college.  I'd say that is a "have to" situation!  I didn't mind it.  It was one of those things where I liked it then after a while I needed a break... then it would be a semester break and I was able to have a break!  yay! toward the end of the break I would be craving "something to do"  so it worked out nicely during school.    ....Well now that I am graduated and long past college, semesters, schedules, early morning alarms, and late night cramming.  I seem to have a crave for a schedule!  At first my thoughts were more toward:  "I need something to do"  I don't need anything more to do!  I have a yard to clean up, plant and beautify!  I have a garden!! (I saw a cute little one inch zucchini yesterday!)  I have a house that needs to be settled in!.......you would think after a year I would be, but no.... there  are still little things that need to be done. some I can do on my own and some I need help with....( ^ remember that waiting thing I was talking about ;) )  there are still things I need to purchase, curtains, a couch, a desk,  all of which are "big" things and I am still saving up the green to be able to purchase them.    ..........I thought about the whole "I can do it for cheaper thing, as far as my curtains go.... well the fabric I wanted for my nursery was:  $15.00 a yard!  yep I think I will wait for a coupon or prioritize a little :) 

So........I just saw a handsome man drive past my house on a motorcycle..... I think he is done baling...  that means I will cut this short.... just a little because I have a good point :) 

Instead of thinking that I needed something more to do to have a little structure, I have changed my thoughts to:  diligence, and determination!  if I can get up today at 6:30 because I need to be ready to leave and I have something to do...  I can get up everyday early and take care of the responsibilities that are entrusted to me!  I can schedule myself and structure my time with out someone or something else  (school or work) doing it for me! 

there was a time a little while ago that I was trying to put myself on a sleep schedule.  I would go to bed by 10:00 or 10:30 and then I would get up by 7:00 ish.  I did it for probably 2 weeks and I could tell that my body was getting used to it.  Before long I was up by Seven without an alarm, (up and actually alert)  and by Ten at night, I could always tell it was Ten even without looking at the clock because my eyes started stinging and saying to my brain...go find that comfy bed and pillow :) 

If I can do it for two weeks with sleep I can do it for longer and with other aspects of life!  I can do all the things on my virtual "to do" list and have time to spare for all my unfinished hobby projects! 

Here is to my new goal of diligence and determination!  :) 

I can hear the motorcycle again.....  I am kind of thinking I will talk him into a date:  monsters university!  (I LOVE that he goes to "kid" movies with me!  tangled, cars 2, hotel Transylvania, and today, monsters :)  I love that man!!!)   besides a date night before I go camping with a bunch a girls for 4 days is justifiable right?  (heck its justifiable any time we are "in town"  just because its important for a healthy relationship to remain in the "dating phase")

I will write again soon! 


Tuesday, May 14, 2013

ALL of my moms

I bet if you are reading this the title caught your eye :)  being mothers day the other day I thought I would tell you about all my moms...
yes I have a million moms!!  after all a definition of mother is: to care for or protect like a mother or act motherly to.  these women have cared for and protected me and I know they will continue to care for and love me forever!  ....and post is to tell you about them and what I learned from them!

first of course is MY mom the one who gave me life.  she has given me so much more than life!!  she has given me the desires to serve and to be a good person.  She has taught me about life, love, respect, joy, character, dignity, virtue, happiness, service, etc etc etc. she is the best!  and these other moms are AMAZING but sorry, don't hold a candle to MY mom!!!

Then there is my mom Meri:  she taught me the importance of loyalty and the value of strength

My mom Teresa: she taught me to go for my dreams and BELIEVE that I could do all I dreamed I could

My mom Elaine:  she taught me the value of having patience and joy that comes when we wait, she also taught me that if we go through Hell, we can come out on top with all the blessings of Heaven

My mom Rebekah:  she taught me to ignore the negative remarks of snooty people and just do what I want and what I think is right,  she also taught me to do what I say I am going to do, to earn the trust of people.

My mom Cindy:  she taught me that love is the most important thing in life. and to let people know you love them!

My mom Jenean:  she taught me to speak kindly about people.... always!

My mom Pat:  she taught me that we are all human and its ok that we are learning

My mom Jodi:  she taught me to have faith and be strong, and that the little disturbances in life...are just that...  little don't let them take hold of you.

My mom Lila:  she taught me the importance of friendship and what it means to have a friend.

My mom Coleen:  she taught me to love the outdoors and to love to connect to the earth.

My mom Rose:  she taught me to reach out to those who are going through similar circumstances and let them know they are not alone and that you love them

when I was thinking about writing this it made me think of how all these women, some a part of my life daily and some only in my heart daily.... but it made me think of how I can have that kind of impact on the children in my life and how I hope that I can touch the lives of those children that I may have a "motherly influence" on. 

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Just a minor post... About my major love!!

I just want to write real quick how much I love my husband!
He is the greatest! God knew what he was doing when he matched us up!!! He is my friend, my strength, my support, my comfort, my love, my life!
He knows when I am down and lifts me up. He is patient with me and what I put him through! He loves me for me. He loves and accepts the quirks and faults I have. He is patient with the growth and learning I am doing.
He loves the fact that I have a foot wall and a bright red wall. He even picked out the blue paint for my kitchen ceiling!
He knows how to make me feel special and he knows how to make me laugh!
I have been married to him for 3 years and almost 2 months! Marrying him was one of the best steps I have taken! I plan to take lots of good steps in my life to always make me move forward and live a good life. I plan to live my dreams and conquer all my fears and insecurities!
I will do it hand in hand next to him! With his help, strength, and love... I know I can do it!
he was gone for a couple days, and when he came back he brought me 3 tomato plants for my garden! ...
I have been struggling with some things and 3 tomato plants just because he was thinking of me, Meant the world!
A look, a wink, a smile, a squeeze of the hand, a joke, a hug.... A word, some silence, or 3 tomato plants. I am loved! And I love him!